When we are in the honeymoon period of a wonderful relationship, it can feel like nothing will keep you away from the person you love. But many relationships can fizzle out after a few months or years.
Perhaps you were in different places in life. Or you stopped getting along. Breakups can be tough, especially if you run in the same social circle as your ex. Being invited to a party where your ex will be can make the most confident person nervous.
Here are a few tips for navigating parties thrown or attended by your ex.
Go When You Are Ready
The first step is understanding if you are ready. Did you break up a few days or weeks ago? Perhaps you need a little more time before you are ready to face your ex, especially at an event with other people and alcohol!
How to Arrive at an Ex’s Party in Style
If you are mentally and physically ready to see your ex at their party, it is all about making a great impression. Start by picking out a killer outfit. Do not hesitate to go shopping for a new shirt or dress, especially if it is a fancy party!
Come up with a few conversation topics, in case you have to make small talk with your ex. Tell them about how great you are doing at work. You can even mention that you started dating again, if some time has passed since the relationship ended!
Making a Killer First Impression
Arriving in style will set the tone for the entire party, especially if your ex is present. Book a limousine and head to the party with a couple of your closest friends. Have a couple drinks in the limo, as it will help you relax.
Think positively. A party is about having fun, mingling and getting to know new people! Both of you have moved on, which means there is no reason to be hostile or standoffish towards your ex! Show them your best side at the party.
Head Home If You Feel Uncomfortable
Sometimes it takes seeing another person in the flesh to understand how you truly feel about the situation. You may have thought you were prepared. But now that you saw your ex, many feelings are coming flooding back.
Greet them politely, make small talk and ensure they get a good impression from that conversation. Stay for an hour, hang out with your closest friends and then excuse yourself from the party inconspicuously.